thenarator replied to your chat: diehard stiles fan: omg stiles is awesome. he said…
you know, there are plenty of stiles fans who dont have any particular feelings on lydia one way or the other. in fact id go so far as to say the majority of us dont ship him with lydia. we may disagree with lydias taste, but we dont hate her.
i never said they hate her. i said that they agree with a lot of problematic shit with how his character is written and romanticize it
I always took Stiles’ actions toward Lydia as being meant to be foolish and wrong, as something that young men in our society who haven’t been taught better tend to do. I hope he gets some comeuppance about them this season, so people can stop romanticizing his obsessive behavior.
but that is the large problem with how society perceives this behaviour. because when it goes badly, it’s the girl who is blamed for hypothetically leading the boy on
i just wish this problematic behaviour wasn’t written as normal and romanticized
Maybe I give the writers too much benefit of the doubt when I figure they meant to write him as foolish and creepy…
that is inherently the problem. this behaviour is showcased as foolish and haplessly romantic. when in fact, it’s creepy. at large this is how ingrained patriarchy is in society. where a guy’s unwanted attention is spun into a delightful tale of unrequited love
I completely agree, especially once I realized that a lot of people do take delight in Stiles’ actions toward Lydia (damn Twilight generation).